By: Douglas Hollon, coach, public speaker, and blogger at
As one thinks. What happens about what one thinks? Are there Psychological and Physiological effects about what we think?
The answer is Yes. Our thinking affects how we feel and how we feel affects the decisions we make.
Here is a story:
You work at a job you do not like. Your boss is rude, dishonest, and inconsiderate. You work where you do because you need the money. Now let’s say you purchase a lottery ticket and after the drawing at 10pm you learn you have the winning ticket. You are an instant millionaire. You think to yourself, I am going to work tomorrow, and I am going to give my two-week notice.
You arrive the next morning and while at your desk, your boss comes to you and begins to criticize you for your work. How do you feel? Does what your boss states to you have any affect on you? Do you state something to your boss, and if so, what do say? Do you tell your boss to get bent? Or Do you just smile and go about your day? Let’s just say you choose to say nothing at that time, and you just smile. You smile because you have won millions of dollars in the lottery.
At lunchtime, you are checking the news on your mobile phone and you look for the winning lottery ticket numbers for the drawing the night before. You discover that you were one number off from having the winning lottery ticket number. Just like that, no millions of dollars. What do you think? How do you feel?
Now reflect back on how your boss treated you earlier in the morning. Your boss was criticizing you but the criticism did not phase you. You were not affected. Why? Because you believed you were a winner of millions of dollars, and no matter what anyone stated to you, you brushed it off as no big deal.
You do have control over what you think. In turn, what you think affects how you feel. You choose whether or not to be affected by what people tell you or the manner they talk to you.
How we think is important. Remember, the choice is ours.
Adapted from “17 Lies That Are Holding You Back and the Truth That Will Set You Free” by Steve Chandler
About Douglas Hollon:
Doug is a Leadership and Personal Success coach who focuses on helping each person lead his or her employees or family with extraordinary success, and he helps each person to be the best person he or she can be. His emphasis is on team leaders and fathers of blended families. He brings a lot of dedication, loyalty, and compassion and enjoys working with clients in the areas of personal development, building winning relationships, and goal setting.
Doug has completed 48 Days DISC Certification and is currently working toward being a certified 48 Days Coach through our Coaching Mastery Program. His background includes: Leading Teams (business and military), Personal Development, and Personal Finance/Credit Reporting. You can find out more about him by visiting his website www.expresswaycoaching.com .