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The Price You Pay for Rebuking Your Faith & Parent’s Teachings

By: Terry Burgess, Owner and Men’s Midlife Coach, Upward MC 8Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. 9They are a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck.  – Proverbs 1:8-9 When I was a young boy my mother used to say to me, “Son one day you are going to regret not listening to me; I hope it is not after I have died.”  I used to blow that statement off every time she said it.   This past week during my morning prayer and devotional the above statements really convicted and struck a chord with me.  The reason the above verses convicted me was because if I would have heeded my mother’s advice when I was younger and in college my life would have been much different. I not only had forsaken my mother’s wisdom, but I also forsaken God and his teachings that I spoke and lived as a witness throughout my high school years. However, when I left for college and moved out on my own I thought I knew it all. Guess what? I did not know it all and I paid the price for shunning the wisdom my mother and my Lord and Savior. The […]

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Top 25 Signs You May be Having a Midlife Crisis

By: Terry Burgess, Owner and Career/Executive Leadership Coach, Upward MC Last week I was talking with someone about being a midlife coach, when they asked me “What are some signs that a person may be having a “Midlife Crisis”? I explained that there are several different signs and gave 2 to 3 examples plus an detail explanation.  A day or two later I decided to do a little creative research and developed my own top 25 signs you may be having a “Midlife Crisis” or “Midlife Challenge”. This list is not all inclusive.  Some individuals may have signs that are not on this list.  If you know of any signs not listed here, please share them with me.   Many individuals may only exhibit a few of these signs while others may exhibit nearly all of them. So without any further ado… Here is my list. Top 25 Signs You May be Having a Midlife Crisis Desiring a simple life Start looking up old boyfriends or girlfriends on social media sites Start thinking about going to church but never act on it Excessively reminisce about your childhood Take no pleasure in your friends’ successes Want to change your friends but don’t meet anyone new that you like Obsessively compare your appearance […]

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HOW TO: Use your Mission Statement Every Day for Success

Every successful business has an effective and creative comprehensive mission statement.  If the mission statement is one that each employee, manager, and owner can identify with it can empower them with the ability to make decisions in their role without much thought. Two previous blogs (10/26/2017 and 11/1/2017) have discussed the importance of having a personal mission statement and why we need to have one in our lives.  My other blog took you through a simple but thorough process to create your own personal mission statement.   It is my hope you have completed your mission statement and have started to apply it in your everyday life. Well now that you have your personal mission statement we need to make sure we keep in our mind everyday as we go forward.   You will want to ensure when you are faced with a question or situation you use your mission statement to help guide you to the best response, so you can achieve the success you desire. The first thing I did with my mission statement is print it out in large print on a sheet of paper and hang it above my computer/desk so that I see it every day.   This ensures I never forget it while I am doing my […]

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God, Family, and Everything Else: Why Jimmy Fallon Became My Hero Today

By: Terry Burgess, Owner and Career/Executive Leadership Coach, Upward MC I woke up yesterday morning to a multitude of notifications on Facebook who were bashing Jimmy Fallon, the host of NBC’s Tonight Show because he is stepping away from the camera while he is grieving his mother’s death.  I am a fan of his comedic genus though I may not always agree with his political views. However, as a family man and human being he now has a fan for life. I immediately began to think back to my journey with my mother as she declined in health.  It was during the last year of her life and the beginning of my new life after my midlife crisis that I developed my new life’s mantra.   This manta is a simple five-word statement that I have told several individuals over time.  This mantra is “God, Family, and Everything Else”. These five words were all I lived during the last year of my mother’s life and beyond.   It was during that year that I spent more time with my mother than I had in the previous 15 years.   My mother never wanted to interfere with my life.  She wanted me to live a life of my own and did not want to […]

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HOW TO: Creating an Empowering Personal Mission Statement

By: Terry Burgess, Owner and Career/Executive Leadership Coach, Upward MC   Every successful business has an effective and creative comprehensive mission statement.  If the mission statement is one that each employee, manager, and owner can identify with it can empower them with the ability to make decisions in their role without much thought. So, at the end of my last blog entry on why you need a personal mission statement I asked this question: If a company’s overall success can be tied back to a high-quality mission statement so would it not make sense the use a high-quality personal mission statement can help you in your own life?   It is my hope that you agreed and said you need one to help you go through life.  A personal mission statement can be considered a personal code of conduct in how you carry yourself in life and business. Below is my personal mission statement it has changed over the 48 years I have been on this Earth due to my experiences. I give it to you as an example. Terry’s Personal Mission Statement I help empower & support midlife men facing challenges in seeking the success they desire; but are afraid to do it alone or ask for help. You […]

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Personal Mission Statements: Why Do You Need One?

By: Terry Burgess, Founder and Men’s Midlife Coach, Upward MC Every business has a mission statement.  Each mission statement has taken a great deal of thought and time to craft to ensure it meets the overall mission of the business.   These statements help the organization to maintain focus and to stay in alignment with the values they want to exhibit and how they want to impact the world they serve. You can tell a great deal about the success of the business by looking at their mission statement and their level of success. The use of a high-quality mission statement can not only tell you the businesses commitment to their values, purposes, and passions; it can also attract customers who share those same qualities. Some mission statements are created and never referred to again by the members of the business or organization again.   Often these businesses are the ones struggling to survive the highly competitive world of business.   Conversely, those businesses which have taken due diligence and time to craft a high-quality mission statement are usually the most successful businesses. A high-quality mission statement is one which every member of a business or organization can use to help guide their decisions in every action they perform or make in their […]

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How to Escape the Midlife Hamster Wheel of Boredom

By: Terry Burgess, Founder and Men’s Midlife Coach, Upward MC Every person that I know or have talked to has had a period in their life when they feel like their life is at a standstill.  However, many who are in their midlife years often suffer this feeling more often and with regularity.  They feel they just go through the same motions and routines day in and day out.  This is normal if its only for a few days or a week or two.  However, if it last longer than that you may need help to change the situation so that you can live a more rewarding life. Being stuck for extended periods of time can have harmful and negative effects on all areas of your life.   These episodes also rob you of being able fully happy with your life. The negative effects of being stuck will cause issues in relationships, work, health, financial, and spiritual areas of your life.  Ultimately for the midlife aged individual they may begin to exhibit behaviors that bring changes in their life that can hurt relationships, budgets, and/or other areas of their life. I want to give to you some help to get out of the hamster wheel or the swamp of life if you […]

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How Reading can make you “Richer and Successful” in Your Midlife Challenges

By: Terry Burgess, Founder and Men’s Midlife Coach, Upward MC     Tom Corley, the author of “Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals” finds that “rich people” those with an annual income of $150,000 are more like to read for self-improvement then for entertainment. He gives us the following statistics to prove his point. 11% of rich people read for entertainment, versus 79% of poor individuals. 85% of rich people read 2 or more educational, self-improvement books per month, whereas only 15% of poor read the same amount. 94% of rich people read news publications (newspapers, blog, and magazines) compared to 11% of poor individuals. These statistics show that rich people are dedicated and voracious readers who are focused on success and daily improvement.  They are more likely to be individuals who gained their knowledge and education through the school of hard knocks and by self-education. However, I do not believe in the worldly materialistic mantra that monetary riches are needed to be successful and happy.  I shared that view through my early adulthood.  I learned through my midlife challenges and life renovation a new definition of success and happiness.   This new definition is based upon my serving others to bring them to success.  I find if […]

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How to Build and Maintain a Personal Network for Midlife Challenges

By: Terry Burgess, Founder and Men’s Midlife Coach, Upward MC “Today’s most valuable currency is personal capital, defined as the information, expertise, trust, and total value that exist in the relationships you have and personal networks to which you belong.” – Keith Ferrazzi, Author The above quote is a perfect summary of the reason we all should strive to build quality personal networks.  However, if you are going through the stages of a midlife or quarter-life crisis, your personal network will become a very critical resource.  I can tell you from my experience with my Midlife Crisis it was my redesigning my personal network which helped to support and empower my own I would like to present you three suggestions to help you in the building of your personal personal network. Carefully create and select the members of your network You must first understand the members of your personal network reflect on the values and person that you show to the entire community.   Jim Rohn once said, “You are the average of the five persons you spend the most time with.”  The same can be said regarding your personal network.  The way you are viewed in professional and personal circles is the average of your entire personal network. You must […]

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Should I or Should I not? How to Address Your Friend’s Midlife Crisis

By: Terry Burgess, Midlife Coach for Men My true friends and family members who were very close to me were the ones who noticed the start of my journey into my midlife challenges.   If it were not for their caring concern and advice, I may have never begun to address the issues and behaviors that were leading me down a path of destruction. If they had not mentioned my behavioral mood swings, my stress eating tendencies, and my changes in level of interest in hobbies and activities which at one time were something I could not miss participating in; I would have never started on my path of recovery. Sometimes you as a friend may notice signs of changes in a friend’s behaviors and thoughts before they notice those same signs.  Once you notice these signs you begin to wonder should I address them or should I not? The answer to that second question is dependent upon your perceived quality of your friendship with that person.   However, I can attest that your intervention can and will be appreciated by your friend in the long run if you commit to helping them.  I am going to give you 5 tips to help you to address those changes with your friend. Recognize […]

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