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My Mid-life Lessons from a Winter Storm

By: Terry Burgess, Founder and Men’s Mid-life Coach, Upward MC I remember when I was a school aged lad that my favorite word on the news was Snow.  However, now that I am 48 years old. That word has mixed meanings to me. This past week was the 40th anniversary of the Blizzard of 1978.  I remember that one very well. I remember being in snow drifts that were nearly as tall as me when I was only 8 years old.  I survived, and I had fun playing in the snow then. However, this past week reminded me of how I have changed since those days. This week though God used two winter storms in a matter of 3 days to teach and reinforce some lessons for me. Forward to the World I live in today, I live in a very old house (112 years old) which I love immensely because of its stature and history combined.   However, this house comes with many challenges such as location of plumbing lines, many cervices created by non-square building methods of the early 1900’s, and the fact that though the house is made of solid oak there are nearly 20 windows in this two-story house not to count the glassed in back porch entry […]

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Low Cost and Simple Exercise Plans for Middle Aged Men

By: Terry Burgess, Founder and Men’s Mid-life Coach, Upward MC   It has been proven that one of best things to help reduce the effects of aging of our physical bodies, mental abilities, and self-esteem is participating in a regular exercise plan after age 40.   However, there are many different exercise programs out there for us to choose from.   So how do you know what is the best program for you.   My advice is the best program for you is the one which you are most comfortable with to give you the results you desire.    However, you may be limited by concerns such as physical limitations, time limitations, as well as what options for exercise is available to you.   I wanted to give you some options for exercise for that you may or may not have thought about to help you bring exercise into or back into your life.  These options are some very simple and low-cost ideals that can help you begin getting fit again and improve your chances of reducing the effects of aging as well as increase your life span and quality of life.  Here are three options for you to try that are low cost or in some cases free to begin with on […]

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Tips for Men over 40 Starting an Exercise Program

By: Terry Burgess, Founder and Men’s Mid-life Coach, Upward MC Are you one of the many men who started out 2018 with a goal to become more physically fit and healthy?  Many men age 40 and above become more aware of their health and fitness as they see their body age.  There also comes with this the reality that the middle-aged men have lost their level of fitness and health they had in their twenties and thirties because of various reasons. However, many of these men still see themselves as a man who can make a comeback with just starting a new exercise routine.   Furthermore, many begin an exercise routine and give it 110% effort believing they can perform at the same level they could just 10 to 20 years earlier.  However, after a week or two of this effort they come to the realization age has caught up with them and they give up on the efforts or severely cut back on time of working out. I want to share with you five success tips to help you with beginning a new exercise program after the age of 40.   These tips will help you both mentally and physically prepare for success rather then failure if you do not implement […]

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Is it too Late to Start an Exercise Program in Mid-Life?

By: Terry Burgess, Founder and Men’s Mid-life Coach, Upward MC Many individuals who find themselves having a mid-life crisis often find they are wanting to make changes to their exercise habits and lifestyle.   These individuals have body composition issues because they are no longer in the good health they were in when they were in their younger years. These middle-aged men often have developed what some call “love handles” or “spare tire midsections”.  Many of these men also have developed a sedentary lifestyle due to decreased levels or eliminating exercise totally due to obligations with the demands of work and/or family time.   However, they begin to realize the changes in their physical physiques and body composition.  This is further brought to light from medical officials in their yearly physicals and wellness checks. Many of these men wonder have I already waited too long to start an exercise program to make a big difference in my life expectancy?   A Swedish University study which observed the effects of exercise on 2200 middle aged men who were 50 years old between 1969 to 1973 for a total of 32 years.   These men were first classified as far as low, medium, and high exercise activity levels as they entered the study. They also underwent […]

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The #1 Thing You Must Have to Gain Success

By: Terry Burgess, Founder and Men’s Mid-life Coach, Upward MC Many of you who are reading this blog either made new resolutions for this new year of 2018.   Everyone whom partakes in this ritual wants to make positive changes in one or more areas of their life.  They enter the year with a great deal enthusiasm and intention to keep their resolution without missing a day of achievement.   Personally, I do not make resolutions any longer in my life. I started using goals to gain success in the different areas of my life. There is a lot of truth in the statement made in the newest Allstate commercial which states, “Resolutions are made to be broken.”   A resolution is just a simple statement such as “I will drink more water this year” or “I will quit smoking” and finally “I will lose weight this year”.  These resolutions are all very good things to strive for and accomplish in a person’s life. However, over the years of failed resolutions and talking with others I have found to make true success happen in your life you have to have two things.  The first of these is to use a goal system with specific action points to reach those goals.   My system of […]

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What Age are you Middle Aged or in Mid-life?

By: Terry Burgess, Founder and Men’s Mid-life Coach, Upward MC Yesterday I was asked by a follower of my blogs “Can you define mid-life? Is this age, career, or a certain point of achievement in my life?”  I took a few seconds and then answered his question.  I was surprised by the question.  However, I realized I had not answered this basic question in previous blogs. Let me first say there is not a defined answer to a precise answer to define mid-life.   However, this is the answer I gave this individual: “There is no absolute defined age of mid-life. This is because I find it is totally up to the individual to determine when they are in mid-life or middle aged.  I have found individuals in their 40s think they are middle aged. However, I have also found individuals in their 50s and 60s who felt they are middle aged. I believe and have observed that mindset and the individual’s view on their life’s accomplishments and circumstances are the key factors in determining middle age or mid-life. I use the analogy of identifying midlife/middle age as a person playing darts with a moving bulls eye center which is different for each person.” Historically, the term “Mid-life Crisis” was first […]

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Surviving A New Year with Mid-life Challenges

By: Terry Burgess, Founder and Men’s Mid-life Coach, Upward MC   2018 is just a few days away.   The end of one year and the beginning of a new year brings an individual the opportunity for them to bring changes to their lives.  Sometimes though if you have a very negative and unsuccessful year though the new year can be overshadowed those events.   This is particularly true for individuals who are going through challenges in their midlife to senior years.   Individuals ages 40 to 65 oftentimes see changes in their lives become more difficult and longer periods of time to overcome and be successful.   However, I have found this is due to their mindset.   Your mindset and beliefs can be the difference in your life in the future days being a challenge or being a “win” for positive changes in life.    You can create success and positivity in your life by the way that you frame what happens in your life.  I am not saying that everything in your life is going to be a success or what you want to happen in your life.  However, using the magic of reframing and looking for the good in everything that happens to you can help give motivation and confidence […]

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“A SMARTER” Way to Make Changes in the New Year

By: Terry Burgess, Founder and Men’s Mid-life Coach, Upward MC   2018 is just a few days away.  There are several traditions that many individuals take a part of as a celebration of the dawn of a new year.   Some individuals partake in a meal with cabbage and black-eyed peas, singing Auld Lang Syne, kissing at midnight, watching fireworks at midnight, and some even set resolutions to make changes in their life.   Many of these traditions are layered in beliefs and superstitions of bring luck in the coming year.  However, it is the last one that I would like to focus on in this blog.   The process of setting a resolution is a way to bring changes to one area of your life.  Often these resolutions do not make it more than a few days or weeks.   I don’t make resolutions at New Years. I make five to seven goals to help me guide my life in the coming year.   These goals are set using the A-SMARTER Goal System that I have created by using a combined goals system of two different systems.  The “A-SMARTER” Goal System has the following steps in the process.  The letters in this goal system stand for the following steps:   A = […]

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Five Lessons Learned While Being Unemployed

By: Terry Burgess, Founder and Men’s Mid-life Coach, Upward MC The thought of being unemployed at any time is nerve wracking.  However, as you get older the more challenging it becomes to navigate the challenges of finding new employment. Today I wanted to bring you five lessons I have learned about unemployment during my lifetime. Lesson 1 – Take time to “Freak Out” or Mourn about the loss of your job.  I learned this lesson after I lost my job in 2010.  It is OK to take a day or two to adjust to the fact that you are not employed any longer.  Your immediate thought is “I have to find a job quickly.”   I suggest taking at least a day or two to work through your feelings of loss and hurt.  If you do not do this, you may see your feelings of hurt and anger showing through your personality as your go on the hunt for a new job.   Lesson 2 – Unemployment is not a reflection on you as a person.  This is especially true of involuntary unemployment.  Remember that unemployment is an opportunity for change.  Always ask yourself this question to help you “OK, how can I make this challenging point of change in to […]

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Facts and Advice for Those Unemployed After Age 40

By: Terry Burgess, Founder and Men’s Mid-life Coach, Upward MC   Job loss and unemployment at any age can make a person nervous.  However, for those individuals over the age of 40 it can be a large stressor.  Losing one’s job at this stage of life for some may trigger a mid-life crisis.   Individuals who find themselves losing a job after they have turned forty face several unique challenges that their younger colleagues will not face.  Some of these challenges include the following: Often individuals around 40 years of age have reached their salary plateau. Older workers find it takes longer to find new employment than it does young workers. Older workers often will have to take jobs at a lower payrate than the one they lost. Older workers often in their mid-life years must change jobs or have a forced change in how they work.   Individuals who have lost their job and are also going through a mid-life crisis or relationship difficulties will find even more difficult times.  This is because of the stress brought on my having to handle the all the changes happening to them at one time.   These events are stressful as individual, unrelated events.   However, when you combine all the events together it […]

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