How to Build and Maintain a Personal Network for Midlife Challenges

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How to Build and Maintain a Personal Network for Midlife Challenges

By: Terry Burgess, Founder and Men’s Midlife Coach, Upward MC

“Today’s most valuable currency is personal capital, defined as the information, expertise, trust, and total value that exist in the relationships you have and personal networks to which you belong.”

– Keith Ferrazzi, Author

The above quote is a perfect summary of the reason we all should strive to build quality personal networks.  However, if you are going through the stages of a midlife or quarter-life crisis, your personal network will become a very critical resource.  I can tell you from my experience with my Midlife Crisis it was my redesigning my personal network which helped to support and empower my own

I would like to present you three suggestions to help you in the building of your personal personal network.

  • Carefully create and select the members of your network

You must first understand the members of your personal network reflect on the values and person that you show to the entire community.   Jim Rohn once said, “You are the average of the five persons you spend the most time with.”  The same can be said regarding your personal network.  The way you are viewed in professional and personal circles is the average of your entire personal network.

You must be careful of who you allow into your network especially now in your midlife/quarter-life crisis journey.  You must ensure that individual is ethical, trustworthy, and have your well-being in mind as they relate to you in their interactions.  They also must have a likable and sharing personality.  This does not mean they necessarily must always agree with you but one necessity is they will be upfront and honest with you.

  • Give more than you receive in the relationship

It a lesson that we learned when we were children, it is far better to give more than it is to receive.  The same premise holds true in personal networking.  Your will receive greater rewards if you give more of yourself and your knowledge and talents.  Individuals who feel they have received more than they give will often give more than they intended at the onset and throughout a relationship.

  • Share your network connections with others

To succeed in life and business you must learn to not be afraid to share your knowledge, assets, and personal contacts with others.  If you continue to nurture your relationships with your contacts, then it should be easy to share that relationship with others you meet in the future. You will find that in sharing your relationship with other you will gain more in return from both your network contact as well as the person you shared that contact with.

The quote at the opening of this blog is a perfect summary of the reason we all should strive to build quality personal networks. I recommend Keith Ferrazzi’s 2005 book Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time to help you to begin to understand how to successfully build a support network to help you to successfully navigate your midlife journey. This book is an excellent book which can help you in all areas of your life.


If you are needing some help or discernment on where to go next in your midlife journey; please feel free to contact me for a complimentary 1-hour coaching introduction.  I can help you develop a simple starting point plan to help you get on the road from your “midlife crisis” to your “midlife rediscovery and redesign” for your life.  You can visit to schedule you complimentary coaching hour!

Terry is a Personal Leadership and Midlife Coach for Men with Upward MC in Benton, Kentucky.  He can be contacted via e-mail at  or by phone at 270-493-0967. His website can be found at


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