By: Terry Burgess, Founder and Men’s Mid-life Coach, Upward MC
Yesterday I was asked by a follower of my blogs “Can you define mid-life? Is this age, career, or a certain point of achievement in my life?” I took a few seconds and then answered his question. I was surprised by the question. However, I realized I had not answered this basic question in previous blogs.
Let me first say there is not a defined answer to a precise answer to define mid-life. However, this is the answer I gave this individual: “There is no absolute defined age of mid-life. This is because I find it is totally up to the individual to determine when they are in mid-life or middle aged. I have found individuals in their 40s think they are middle aged. However, I have also found individuals in their 50s and 60s who felt they are middle aged. I believe and have observed that mindset and the individual’s view on their life’s accomplishments and circumstances are the key factors in determining middle age or mid-life. I use the analogy of identifying midlife/middle age as a person playing darts with a moving bulls eye center which is different for each person.”
Historically, the term “Mid-life Crisis” was first defined by Elliot Jaques, a Canadian Psychologist, in 1965 as critical phase of human development between the ages of 40-60 based on character change points and periods of transition. Individuals in mid-life crisis feel like they are not meeting the expectations of themselves or others have placed upon them. He also noted that these transition periods can vary between genders.
There has been a great deal of debate over the years concerning if mid-life crisis is an actual condition or a set of behaviors. A NBC Today Show survey conducted in 2016 asked the question “At what age do you consider yourself at middle aged?” Surprisingly, 52% of the respondents said age 55, another 36% said age 45, while 10% said age 65, and 2% said age 35.
It is these numbers listed above that I stand by my answer I gave to the question asked by that individual.
If you are needing help with mid-life issues or challenges your life; please feel free to contact me for a complimentary 30 minute coaching session. I can help you develop a simple starting point plan to help you get on the road from your “mid-life crisis” to your “mid-life rediscovery and renovation” for your life. You can visit http://bit.ly/SchedulewithTerry to schedule you complimentary coaching session!
Terry is a Personal Leadership and Mid-life Coach for Men with Upward MC in Benton, Kentucky. He can be contacted via e-mail at Terry@upwardmc.com or by phone at 270-493-0967. His website can be found at http://www.terrypburgess.com