By: Matt Woodrum – Founder of Wrestling with Fatherhood
One of the biggest things for us, as men, to do when January 1st comes rolling around is to come up with a brand-new list of goals that we would love to accomplish. However, once the newest and freshness of our goals wear off, many people decide to put their goals on hold. According to businessinside, only about 20% of people’s goals make it past the second week of February. WHAT!! FEBRUARY!! This means that only a small percentage of people are still thinking about their goals by the end of February, let alone by the end of the year. As someone who has been through the endless cycle of falling short on my goals, I understand how discouraging this can be. However, I also completely understand how life can easily escape when your working, taking care of your children, or trying to be a great husband. However, there is a way for you and anyone else to accomplish your goals. You do not have to set bar low. You do not have to put your dreams aside. Instead, try using the S.M.A.R.T. goal setting method. A S.M.A.R.T. goal is defined as one that is specific, measurable, achievable, results-focused, and timebound
Specific – Specific goals tend to answer the questions what (is my goal), Why (is my goal important, and How (will I accomplish my goal). One major example of a goal that most people aim to accomplish at the beginning of the year is to lose weight. Most people tend to say something like, “I want to lose weight”. Someone else might say something like, “I want to lose 30 lbs. this year”. While this is a great goal to have, it does not answer the questions “why” or “how”.
A better example of this goal might be something like, “I want to lose 30 lbs. this year because I want to feel/look and be healthier for my children. I will accomplish this goal by drinking 8 glasses of water a day, limit fast food eating to _______________, and plan all my meals out for the week.
Measurable – Goals should be measurable so that you have tangible evidence that you have accomplished the goal. Going back to our weight example, most people say, I want to lose weight this week/month. However, these same people wont step on a scale for the entire month and continue to anything they feel like. When we come up with measurable goals, we allow ourselves to win on the way up. By setting a up a way to measure how close we are to our goals, we give ourselves a chance to celebrate our successes.
Achievable – Goals that you have picked out for yourself should always be achievable. Telling yourself and others that your going to lose 20 lbs. within the next week probably is not something that you can achieve. A better goal would be that you are going to lose 2 lbs. this week doing ______________________. Your goals should stretch you slightly, so you feel challenged, but defined well enough so that you can achieve them. You must possess the appropriate knowledge, skills, and abilities needed to achieve the goal.
Results-focused – Goals should measure outcomes, not activities. Some of the questions to ask are; What is the reason, purpose, or benefit of accomplishing the goal? What is the
result (not activities leading up to the result) of the goal? The purpose of having a goal that is result driven is that we need to keep our eyes on the goal. Going back to our example of losing weight, our results-focused goal might be that I want to lose 10 Lbs. so that I can life a longer life and be present for my children. The goal should not be to exercise more and to just eat healthier, just because I want to feel better. Instead the goal need to focus on the results so that you have a destination in mind of where you are wanting to go.
Timebound – Perhaps one of the biggest reasons that people do not meet their goals is that they are not time bound, meaning that people want to meet their goals but do not want to do it within a measure of time. A perfect example of this is when people begin the year by saying that they want to lose weight. While this is a great goal, it is not time bound. Even if someone said something like, “I want to lose 50 Lbs. this year”. It is still not time bound enough. When we are doing S.M.A.R.T. goals, we need to remember these steps down so that we can achieve our goals.
In order for us to accomplish our goals, we must break those goals down into specific, measurable, achievable, results-focused, and timebound. In order for us, as men, to accomplish our goals and show our children that they can accomplish anything they put their minds to, we need to understand the best process that be used to accomplish them.
This month my Guest Blogger for May 2018 is Matt Woodrum. Matt is the founder of Wrestling with Fatherhood, a husband, and the proud father of two girls (Ages 5 and 3). After an injury (broken tailbone) playing dodgeball, Matt gained a lot weight, from eating too much ice cream. Matt noticed that his weight was getting out of control when he maxed out at 275 lbs.! Eager to give his girls the father he never had, Matt decided it was time to take action. Matt has lost 20 lbs. in the last two months and looks forward to continuing his weight loss journey while helping others to accomplish their own health/weight loss goals. You can visit his website at http://www.wrestlingwithfatherhood.com