When Navy Seals Live Inside Your Head

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When Navy Seals Live Inside Your Head

By: Theresa Lode,  Life Coach, public speaker and humorist at http://www.theresalode.com

I recently started seeing a therapist to help me deal with some recurring issues.  (BTW – I have long held the belief that EVERYONE can use a good therapist at some time in their life.)  While I am a huge fan of life coaching, (I work with a coach regularly,)  sometimes one needs the expertise and training of a licensed counselor.  Actually, it was my coach who suggested working with a therapist for a few sessions.  A good coach recognizes the scope of their practice and refers out when necessary.

In my case, sometimes my “git ‘er done” drive crosses a line over into anxiety.  I love how my therapist refers to anxiety: It’s like having Navy Seals in your head.  These bad boys are on heightened alert all.the.time.

Being a word picture sort of gal, I love this analogy.  It gets even better.  When I came home and told my husband, Jay, about the Navy Seals thing, he told me that he had just started watching a documentary series on the Seals.  So of course, I had to watch it.

Here’s a few of the things I learned that helped me better understand the dynamics of anxiety via a Navy Seals analogy.

  • Navy Seals maintain a hair-on-fire sense of urgency (minus any hand flapping, ha) when they are on duty.  They are FOCUSED big time.  This is good for military operations.  Living at Def Con 5 is not a good way to live on a daily basis.
  • Stealth is everything.  These guys can move through a jungle with the quietude of a mouse peeing on a cotton ball.  Unfortunately, when we humans are in pain – and I find this especially so for mental/emotional pain, we tend to go quiet and withdraw.  No bueno.
  • They strike hard and fast.  Again, good for rescuing prisoners or stealing a cookie from the cookie jar.  NOT good when a trip to the store triggers a panic attack.

Having been married for nearly 30 years and having raised three kids – two boys and one girl, I am aware of how damaging the “macho” culture is to males.  I mean, is there anything more “manly” than a Navy Seal, our culture says?

This sort of ideal may work well for extracting a prisoner from a terrorist nest but they are destructive when held as a standard for manhood.  Being ever vigilant and keeping emotions under lock and key is a surefire way to end up with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

I long for a day where our boys are raised with a different view of what it means to be male.  And when men can see their value in humility, kindness and grace – three qualities you will not find in describing a deployed Navy Seal.

If you’ve got Navy Seals calling the shots in your head – I encourage you to have them stand down and re-evaluate their role in your life.  It’s probably past time for them to be discharged from service.

Theresa Lode is “The Zany Sage.”  She’s a Certified Life Coach, public speaker and humorist.  She loves helping people create a new life – without having to go into witness protection.   You may out more about her at: www.theresalode.com

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